Yesterday I met an old friend whom I have not met for many years . He was quite a successful man with four children whom all have graduated from the universities . He retired as a senior government servant with quite a handsome pension . He also had accumulated some properties through his prudent expenditure and investment ventures during his service . During his young days , I knew he was quite careful in his spending . He never simply waste his money on unnecessary things . Thus he is quite well off today and rightfully he should be a happy man .
To my surprise he told me that he was not happy at all contrary to most others would normally think of him . At first I thought he was just kidding but when I looked at his watery eyes , I began to slowly believe him . How could this be ? He is not short of money because apart from his pensions he was also earning from rentals from his shops and houses . He has no more commitments as the children have already graduated from universities overseas and locally . What made him feel so miserable ?
I tried to pinch some info here and there just liked I was still a Police officer . I managed to hook in some informations and the rest just putting two and two together .He was obviously not happy with his marriage life . At first he was reluctant to tell me but after being convinced that I was there to help him , he finally relented . He then told me that of late his wife had acted indifferently . Perhaps because now that the children were already on their own feet , she felt that there was no need for the husband to be around . She is no more the good obedient wife like she used to be and instead become very bossy and abusive . To him she is no more a wife but instead a ' monster ' . Contrary to the teachings of Islam - that whatever the wife does with sincerety would be considered good deeds and would be rewarded by God in the life after , instead she put on a sickening sour face each time seeing the sight of her husband especially whenever he was seated at the dining table . He felt as if he has to beg for food . Not only that she failed to serve the husband as she should be with some dignity , she too does not show any bloody respect for him any more . She too have refused to share the same bedroom for already some years on the excuse that he snores . To me that wife is definitely a sinner . Some times I wonder why these wives do not realize that their daily prayers would become futile if they continue to behave that way . Don't their parents taught them that ? This is perhaps because they just have half cooked knowlege on religion and the rest are all their assumptions .
I was taken a back when I saw him suddenly cried like a baby . I was quite amazed to see him cried because a strong man like him would unlikely act that way . He told me that he has been keeping quiet about it and was very patient towards his wife . He has been too far pushed to the wall and was no more able to withstand it . He even contemplated of ending his marriage . But I was able to make him came back to his senses and persuaded him not to have any idea about it because if that were to happen , it would have a very far reaching implications . Finally he agreed with me to be strong and remain patient . We then parted but with a promise to stay in close contact to update ourselves .
That was the story of a dear friend that could happen to any one of us too . I just cannot imagines why wives now these days are so cruel towards their husbands . No wonder of late there are quite a number of break up marriages amongst veteran people . I used to look down on them but now I begin to have a different perspective towards them . Perhaps they have to divorce their wives because they do not want to see them continue to live in sins . If that is the case , they have made a noble decision .
